Follower or invincible

Do you know why people remember me?

Because I dare to break the mold. I stand out. I'm different. I dare to live life. There to dance as if nobody else is watching me. From the heart.

They say life is a dance. Well, there are two ways to dance it. You can get a teacher and learn the steps. Follow the rules set forth by others before you. That makes you follower. A good dancer potentially, but, really, a good follower, always stuck within limits and bound by rules; the same old rules invented by others.
Another way is to just close your eyes, take a deep breath, listen to the music and go with it. Let your heart set the rules and the steps "write" themselves.
Later on, if you really care to conform, you can even learn the "set in stone" steps. But you should always be true to yourself. Put your soul in every little step. Don't let others convince you that their way is better. The best way for you is to do what your heart tells you. It's the only way you will have no regrets. You may get it wrong, it may even look weird; but if it feels right then you've made the right choice.

It won't always be easy. And you'll often find yourself dancing alone. Some people won't get you, some will think you're too out there... Those who know what it's like to live life on your own terms will appreciate your dance; the effort, passion and the fact that you can truly take a chance.

There are two ways to live life: you can be a follower, or you can be invincible.

Denisa (Nov. 9th, 2013)

I believe in decency

I believe in decency and reciprocity. Two things that, it seems, are dead in our society. Our generation has replaced them with ignorance and opportunism. And to top these off, a selfishness that makes even a person like me doubt that caring and being a open-hearted human being is good and encouraging behavior.
Humanity has died right before our eyes. We have killed it. The choices we've made, the people we've become, the legacy we choose to leave behind - none of these make us proud. We aim to be the people we trample on, and spit on, and shame.

This hypocrisy has no limits. It has reached the sky and it keeps on going. When even the most hopeful people in the world stop hoping... "Houston, we (definitely!)  have a problem" here!

Denisa

Identity crisis

To my friends who talk about identity.

I am Romanian. Like many of my U.S. Romanian friends, I don't live in Romania. Romania and her history lives in me.
I have all sorts of Romanian palls around me. Most  - even those who have lived here more years than in Romania - still call themselves "Romanians" first (and "Americans", second). I do know those few who think they are "different than the other Romanians".

To them I say: you are who you feel you are. But if you don't have a sense of your own identity anymore, the only thing you can be is: LOST.

Denisa

Carelessness bugs me

What is it that makes people change?
My answer is simple: the environment. The people around them, the situations they go through, the little things.
The Boston Marathon bombers seemed - unlike most other psychos who did such awful things - by all their friend's accounts, normal; friendly even. So what made them switch? What triggered this hate and made them snap at people they didn't even know?

Well, here's a clue. The older brother was pretty straight forward about the fact that he didn't feel like he "fit in".
I hate to say it, but I do understand what he means.
Having been bullied from childhood and made to feel like a social outsider up to recently, even I - an otherwise known as a very "social person" and "life of the party" - have had those moments when I just don't get how some people can live with themselves being so selfish and deliberately horrible. When you are in a new world and you already have to start from scratch, you need friends around you whom you can trust. Far too often careless people with big egos tend to betray your trust. So, once - you let it go; twice - you start to find faults in yourself; three times - it becomes less and less bearable. You get to the point where you have a bunch of "friends", and yet you are completely alone. 
When others are cruel and they don't even know it, when they don't get that words truly do hurt and how much one gesture can cure or wound, or even worse, when they simply don't care... that's when one can easily start to feel like they have nothing to lose anymore.

"Guns don't kill", feelings do. People do - other people. Carelessness kills.
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Instead of P.S.:
My confession, as someone who has been called a "hero" (in light of the Boston Marathon bombings): I don't feel like a hero, and I don't feel like a victim. I simply feel stunned. Or, at best, horrified.
The really sad aftermath of all that has happened is that this tells you how careless we all have become; how ignorant, how indifferent and how selfish. Those who do dare to stay behind and give a hand don't "do their job", or the "human thing to do" anymore. They are "heroes". This kind of "heroism" should be in all of us.
That's what's wrong with our society. That's what breeds killers in "innocent" kids. To my earlier point: Carelessness.
 

I dare to be different!

I dare to be different!

It brings me joy and it brings me pain... It makes me weak and it makes me strong. It elevates me next to all of those "others" who are misunderstood and set aside.
But I dare to try, to give and to love. Because, sometimes, all you can do is love.... even if you are not loved in return.

Someone has to be the "cry for change" of our generation. Let it be me! Let it be us!

I dare to be different! Do you?

I dare to speak, even when I'm ignored.
* Because if people will not hear me, then mountains will; and the mountains last longer.

I dare to think, even when I'm supposed to conform.
* Because one can shackle my body, but not my spirit or my thoughts in an "8 to 5" (or 24 hours) job.

I dare to reinvent myself to the bewilderedness of others.
* Because even when I'm misled, I still get wiser.


Denisa Dobrin (Febr. 2013)

The coolest stuff - my quotes and random thoughts

·         Think. Remember. Plan. Strategize.  Visionize.

·         Religion/Faith  is always open to interpretation. Some strongly believe, and some strongly believe that they absolutely don't believe in anything. I believe one should respect, or at least be open to listen to both sides equally.

·         Sometimes all you can do is love; even if you are not loved in return.

·         It's usually a long road from respect to stupidity; but some just like to run it faster than others. Thank God I'm not much of a runner!

·         It doesn't hurt me that you "don't want to be my friend"; what hurts me is to see that you think you have enough true friends to dispense so easily of a valuable one.

·         Being my friend is a privilege, not a free for all offer. By the same token, I'm honored to be your friend.

·         The further you walk away from me, the closer you arrive...

·         Ideas: - Spider silk clothes. "Day trips to anywhere"

·         My purpose in life is to make memories; mostly good.

·         Someone told me once that I live in a fairytale... Life is reality + the reality of what you are able and want to accomplish. So who in their right mind would ever voluntarily choose to live all their life in a nightmare? 

·         You should never give up on the people who never gave up on you.

·         It's not how much you sleep, but how you use when you're not sleeping that determines the outcome of your endeavors and defines your life. (me, Oct. 13, 2011)

·         Somebody once said that "our time is like the rainbow"; all the colors of life come together and become either two: white and black, or three: past, present and future. – Denisa

·         So many times I feel like God loves me; but ... he just doesn't love me ...ENOUGH.

·         Life shouldn't be about finding ways to forget about the people you love.

·        There's a huge difference between understanding that "No means No" and accepting "No" for an answer.  The only times you should take "No" for an answer without questioning it are: 1. when you don't care about the outcome and 2. when you are ready to give up. The world is full of negativity; question is what do you do about it? How do you handle it?There are so many "No"s I had to fight to turn into "Yes"-es to get to where I am in life and to accomplish all I have.

·         "Make peace with the past, so it doesn't ruin your future".

·         Every man carries in himself the value of his own life.

·         Life is too short to stop smiling.

Half moon lit and winds - a bit; city skyline from the cockpit.

Ghostly thoughts I try to soar past... They still cast their gloomy forecast.

Left behind my worldly rowds,

Night flying, amongst the clouds...

·         "It's a terrible crisis, mon'cher!..."

·         Most take a little bit of nothing from everything.

·         A jerk is offended even before you open your mouth.

·     Nobody's perfect. What you choose and want to see in a person sometimes makes the difference between love and hate.

·         It's amazing how a great teacher can make even a boring graph fun!

·         Lack of communication never solved any problem.

·      The definition of insanity is true only when you discount the learning part. Stop; communicate; try again. Or "move on", thinking that you are always right and the other person is always wrong. You will learn nothing, and make the exact same mistakes with someone else.

(Denisa Dobrin, started in 2011)